THE BIG IDEA: Acknowledge → Disagree → Explain
1. “I see what you mean, but…”
Recognize the idea before explaining your concern.
2. “I’m not sure I agree.”
A direct, measured disagreement. Follow it with your reason.
3. “I understand your point, but…”
Show that you heard the point, then explain your view.
4. “I see it a little differently.”
Signal that you have another perspective.
5. “Could we look at another option?”
Invite alternatives instead of only rejecting the proposal.
6. “My concern is…”
Focus on the specific issue: “My concern is the deadline.”
7. “What if we tried…?”
Introduce a possible solution or small experiment.
8. “I think we may need to reconsider that.”
Use this when a decision may need another look. Explain what has changed.
9. “Can I explain why I see it differently?”
Ask for space to explain your reasoning.
10. “I agree with part of that.”
Name the part you agree with, then clarify where your opinion differs.
Put it together
“I understand your point, but my concern is the deadline. Could we look at another option?”
Use the Four Finger Rule
WANT TO: What do you want to accomplish?
HAVE TO: What facts do you have to explain?
NEED TO: What question do you need answered?
MIGHT: What might you need to repeat or clarify?
Prepare your first sentence and one backup question. If you do not understand, try: “Could you say that again, please?”
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Related lesson: How to ask what to do next at work.
